Like a Healing Balm....  
by YahChannah Wolf

We will begin with:

YermeYahu (Jer) 8:19-22

19      Behold the voice of the cry of the daughter of My people because of them that dwell in a far country: Is YHWH not in Tziyon? Is her king not in her? Why have they provoked Me to anger with their graven images, and with strange vanities?


20      The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and we are not saved.


21      For the hurt of the daughter of My people I am hurt; I mourn and astonishment has taken hold on me.


22      Is there no balm in Gil-ad; is there no healer there? Then why is the health of the daughter of my people not recovered?

 

Health, welfare, peace, joy, support, love and protection are deep needs and desires of every human being.

 

A Righteous Husband is Like a Healing Balm to a troubled soul. We hear so often about the Proverbs 31 wife but very little is in print about the righteous, YHWH obedient husband and his relationship and great value to his family, both his wife and children.

 

Too many of us here may find this hard to relate to. If we have had abusive husbands or parents, then perhaps we more than others may need to look into this.

 

We used to be warned often by parents, teachers, clergymen and others to be very careful who you marry, adding, they will be the father/mother of your children.

 

At one time in the past, daughters had no choice about whom they would marry but if they had a loving, law abiding dad, he would look for all the things in a prospective groom that would offer his daughter and grandchildren the very best opportunity for a happy life.

 

Do you have a YHWH fearing and Torah obedient husband? If you are a husband, are you a YHWH fearing and Torah obedient husband?

 

We need to praise YHWH if we have a spouse who fits this description. If this description does not fit us then we had better get to work on becoming a man or woman who would be described as YHWH fearing and Torah obedient.

 

May we look at the man who is pleasing and obedient to our heavenly Father and view him as a husband, a father and a brother?

 

Bereshith (Gen) 2:23-24

23      And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.

 

24      Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cling to his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

 

This describes the first ‘marriage’. If at marriage, we become one, can we be bound to one who is Torah disobedient and unfaithful?

 

Do we truly appreciate the honesty and hard work our husband does to care for us?

 

Do we ‘judge’ what kind of a husband he is by the material wealth he provides?

 

Tehillim (Ps) 37:16

16      A little that a righteous man has is better than the riches of many wicked.

 

Be happy if you have a righteous man as your husband although you may have few material belongings.

 

 

The YHWH fearing husband will speak words that lead to life and peace. Praise the Father if you have a husband that brings forth these words of life, entrusted to him by YHWH.

 

Mishlei (Prov) 10:11

11      The mouth of a righteous man is a well of life: but violence covers the mouth of the wicked.

 

 

Rest assured that a man who honors YHWH not only will not lie to his Creator, he also will not lie to us. He will walk in the WAY and will lead his family in the paths of righteousness.

 

Mishlei (Prov) 13:5-6

5        A righteous man hates lying but a wicked man is shamefully adhorrant.

 

6        Righteousness keeps the upright on the right path: but wickedness overthrows the sinner.

 

We need to know and remember well that our husband or our Dad for that matter, if he is indeed a faithful follower of the Most High will be guided by YHWH. He may not have all the answers immediately but he knows the one who does and YHWH will hold him up.

 

Tehillim (Ps) 37:23-24

23      The steps of a good man are ordered by YHWH and he delights in his way.

24      Though he falls, he shall not be completely cast down: for YHWH upholds him with His hand.

 

A man who deals fairly, honestly, kindly and tends to his affairs well will be remembered by YHWH. He will also be fondly remembered by his family.

 

Tehillim (Ps)  112:5-7

5        A good man shows kindness and lends to those in need: he will guide his affairs with discretion.

 

6        Surely he shall not be moved for ever: the righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance.

 

7        He shall not be afraid of bad news for his heart is fixed, trusting in YHWH.

 

A good husband and father shows affection and concern about his family, including his future grand and even great grand children.

 

Do we ever consider what our husband is making provisions for when he says no to a purchase, a trip or some other expenditure we wish to make. A good husband can be trusted.

 

Mishlei (Prov) 13:22

22      A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.

 

A just and righteous man, a true and faithful husband is priceless, much more to be desired than gold, he will love us and help keep watch over our very being.

 

He will bring our names and the names of our children before YHWH many times even as we sleep.

 

Michah 6:6-8

6        How shall I come before YHWH and bow myself before the high Elohiym? Shall I come before Him with burnt offerings, with calves of a year old?

 

7        Will YHWH be pleased with thousands of rams, or with ten thousands of rivers of oil? Shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul?

 

8        He has shown you, O man, what is good and what YHWH requires of you, to do justly, to love mercy and to walk humbly with your Elohiym.

 

Also remember that our husband or our father if we are unmarried is responsible before YHWH for us and what we do.

 

Although we will also have to stand before the Most High, our husband or father will also have to stand before the Creator for himself, us and our minor children.

 

Love him, support him, praise YHWH for him. Teach our children always to respect and love their father for he also cares for our very being.

 

Bamidbar (Num) 30:3-9 and 13-16

3        If a woman also vows a vow to YHWH, and binds herself by a bond, being in her father's house in her youth;

 

4        And her father hears her vow, and her bond with which she has bound herself and her father says nothing to her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond with which she has bound herself shall stand.

 

5        But if her father disallows her in the day that he hears; not any of her vows, or of her bonds with which she has bound herself, shall stand and YHWH shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.

 

6        And if she had a husband, when she vowed or uttered anything with which she bound herself;

 

7        And her husband heard it and he said nothing to her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds with which she bound her self shall stand.

 

8        But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with which she bound herself of no effect and YHWH shall forgive her.

 

9        But every vow of a widow, and of a divorced woman, with which she bound her self, shall stand against her.....

 

13      Her husband may establish every vow and every binding oath to afflict herself or he may make it void.

 

14      But if her husband holds his peace and says nothing to her from day to day; then he establishes all her vows, or all her bonds which are upon her. He confirms them, because he said nothing to her in the day that he heard them.

 

15      But if he shall in any way make them void after that he has heard them; then he shall bear her iniquity.

 

16      These are the statutes, which YHWH commanded Moses, between a man and his wife, between the father and his daughter, being in her youth and still living in her father's house.

 

Our Father YHWH gave us fathers and husbands to help guard us. Honor them, love them and more than anything else help them. They have a heavy burden. When they do good for themselves, they do good for us, for our children, for our community.

In several places YHWH compares His relationship with Israel with the relationship between a husband and a wife. Let us read just a few verses and look at His tender love for His ‘wife’ and His great desire for her to be loving and faithful.

 

 

YesheYahu (Isa) 54:1-8

1        Sing, O barren, you that did not bear children; break forth into singing and cry aloud, you that did not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, says YHWH.

2        Enlarge the place of your tent, and let them stretch forth the curtains of your habitations. Do not spare, lengthen your cords and strengthen your stakes;

3        For you shall break forth and spread on the right hand and on the left. Your offspring shall inherit the Gentiles and make the desolate cities to be inhabited.

4        Do not fear for you shall not be ashamed, neither shall you be humiliated for you shall not be put to shame, for you shall forget the shame of your youth, and shall not remember the reproach of your widowhood any more.

5        For your Maker is your husband and YHWH Tsavaot is His name. Your Redeemer is the Qadosh One of Israel; the Elohiym of the whole earth He shall be called.

6        For YHWH has called you as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when you were rejected, says your Elohiym.

7        For a small moment I have left you but with great mercy I will gather you.

8        In a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment but with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you says, YHWH your Redeemer.

 

YesheYahu (Isa) 62:1-5

1        For Tzyon's sake I will not keep silent, and for Yerushalayim's sake I will not rest until its righteousness goes forth as brightness and its salvation shine forth as a burning lamp.

2        And the Gentiles shall see your righteousness and all kings your glory. You shall be called by a new name which YHWH shall Himself choose.

3        You shall be a crown of glory in the hand of YHWH and a royal diadem in the hand of your Elohiym.

4        You shall no more be called deserted; neither shall your land be called devastated any more. But you shall be called Chephzibah (delight of YHWH) and your land shall be called ruled and possessed by YHWH for He delights in you and your land shall be married.

5        For as a young man marries a virgin, so shall your sons marry you and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your Elohiym rejoice over you.

 

Hoshea 2:16-23

16      And it shall be at that day, says YHWH, that you shall call me Ishi (my husband) and shall call me no more Baali (my master).

17      For I will take away the names of Baalim out of her mouth, and they shall no more be remembered by their name.

18      And in that day will I make a covenant for them with the beasts of the field, and with the fowls of heaven, and with the creeping things of the ground: and I will break the bow and the sword and the battle out of the earth, and will make them to lie down safely.

19      I will betroth you to Me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.

20      I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge YHWH.

21      "In that day I will respond," declares YHWH-- "I will respond to the skies, and they will respond to the earth;

22      and the earth will respond to the grain, the new wine and oil, and they will respond to Yizre-el (Elohiym sows).

23      I will plant her for myself in the land; I will show my love to the one I called 'Not My loved one.' I will say to those called 'Not My people,' 'You are My people'; and they will say, 'You are my Elohiym.'"

We see the love of the Father/Creator in the verses we just read. We each need to find our proper place before Him and let it be reflected in our marriages,  

Men, be righteous, upstanding faithful sons of the Most High. Love, protect, guide, nurture and guard the wife and children that YHWH has given you, for you will answer to Him for good and blessing or failure and destruction.

 

Let us all take seriously the relationships which our heavenly Father has set in place for our good and the good of our posterity.

 

Let us not be rebellious against the role in which He has placed us. Husbands and Dads, take the place of responsibility that has been placed upon you. YHWH says you are responsible for your wife, your daughter and your minor sons.

 

Wives and daughters, know that your Creator has put you in the place of being subject first to your Dad and then to your husband when you marry for your good.

 

Our pride or our rejection of authority can wreak havoc upon our relationships. It ought not be so among YHWHs people. Let us pray for guidance in these matters.

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